While I'd never judge anyone over his sexuality (or his religion or anything else for that matter!), and while I agree that 'labelling' anyone is somewhat simplistic, I can safely say that at least as far as my own sexuality is concerned, I am 100% gay and nothing else, never have been, and I'm sure never will be. However, there's only so much else where I as a 'gay' man do fit into what's commonly associated as 'gay' - I never go out on the gay scene, can't identify with many things in today's gay community, and even rarely have sex (with men). So that's where labelling me as 'gay' becomes tricky as although I'm sexually attracted to men ONLY - that's where my 'gay-ness' ends. And the question arises if anyone can (or should be) reduced to their sexual preferences.
yes, sexual is just the "label" needed. i mean, it's not beyond possibility that i'd have sex with a woman again. so who really knows what we are? and why does it really matter?
you have a great weekend, too, bro! and all the guys out there, too!
I have just come across your blog, I am a married man who is coming to terms with my sexuality. I have managed to repress my attraction to men for most of my life, but with the by product of resentment and anger. It is only now that I accept that I do not need to live by a rule set out by society, living as "normal" or "ordinary", because thats what was expected of me are my chains to free myself from.
My navigation and creation of a life that is of my construct has created a journey of tremendous interest.
I look forward to reading back and seeing further posts from you.
I think all us men are united by the similar way we look at and need sex.. we just get off with different people or objects.. let this unite us and not divide us.. sexual.
I hate labels in general. And though sexual seems a more inclusive labels - it's still a label and gives the erroneous suggestion that I might be interested in sleeping with women - which I'm not. Even with all the connotations it has acquired over the years, I prefer gay because of what it used to mean (happy-go-lucky) and queer for its politics.
Agree completely, I'm "sexual". I will say, I bottom, I top, I suck, I kiss and I rim. My line is at the emotional connection. I find it impossible to "romantically love" someone of the same gender. I guess that's the ONLY place I draw that line. When it comes to sex, I believe all things are possible and available to get me and you (him or her) off.
oh, absolutely. i should have made a disclaimer about Wiki. for all of wiki's many faults, though, it can be a good springboard to links to original sources.
i also agree with you that the book is full of its own stereotypes, and is counter to what Master of the Keys is saying. from what i have seen of the book, it sets up a similar "system" for men who have sex with men that is just as confining as that of the stereotypical "gay" culture.
my only goal was to provide information for those unfamiliar with the terminology. it's not uncommon in the scientific world for terms to be coined years before they gain acceptance into dictionaries or encyclopedias.
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While I'd never judge anyone over his sexuality (or his religion or anything else for that matter!), and while I agree that 'labelling' anyone is somewhat simplistic, I can safely say that at least as far as my own sexuality is concerned, I am 100% gay and nothing else, never have been, and I'm sure never will be. However, there's only so much else where I as a 'gay' man do fit into what's commonly associated as 'gay' - I never go out on the gay scene, can't identify with many things in today's gay community, and even rarely have sex (with men). So that's where labelling me as 'gay' becomes tricky as although I'm sexually attracted to men ONLY - that's where my 'gay-ness' ends. And the question arises if anyone can (or should be) reduced to their sexual preferences.
yes, sexual is just the "label" needed. i mean, it's not beyond possibility that i'd have sex with a woman again. so who really knows what we are? and why does it really matter?
you have a great weekend, too, bro! and all the guys out there, too!
I have just come across your blog, I am a married man who is coming to terms with my sexuality. I have managed to repress my attraction to men for most of my life, but with the by product of resentment and anger.
It is only now that I accept that I do not need to live by a rule set out by society, living as "normal" or "ordinary", because thats what was expected of me are my chains to free myself from.
My navigation and creation of a life that is of my construct has created a journey of tremendous interest.
I look forward to reading back and seeing further posts from you.
www.gayoncemeanthappy.blogspot.com
I think all us men are united by the similar way we look at and need sex.. we just get off with different people or objects.. let this unite us and not divide us.. sexual.
I hate labels in general. And though sexual seems a more inclusive labels - it's still a label and gives the erroneous suggestion that I might be interested in sleeping with women - which I'm not. Even with all the connotations it has acquired over the years, I prefer gay because of what it used to mean (happy-go-lucky) and queer for its politics.
Totally agree.
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Agree completely, I'm "sexual". I will say, I bottom, I top, I suck, I kiss and I rim. My line is at the emotional connection. I find it impossible to "romantically love" someone of the same gender. I guess that's the ONLY place I draw that line. When it comes to sex, I believe all things are possible and available to get me and you (him or her) off.
i actually prefer the term andropheliac. It means men who love men and does not have the baggage of the term gay or bisexual.
Dictionary.com nor Bing.com does NOT recognize that word Skippy.
i've heard this word, too, BJ. the correct spelling is "androphilia."
andro = from the Greek/Latin for "man"
philia = from the Greek for "love"
here's a Wiki entry: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Androphilia
http://www.amazon.com/Androphilia-Rejecting-Identity-Reclaiming-Masculinity/dp/0976403587/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1269357861&sr=1-1
Androphilia: Rejecting the Gay Identity, Reclaiming Masculinity, by Jack Malebranche
Thanks Joseph. Yes, I have heard of that book. I still believe it feeds into some stereotypes as well.
And leave it to Skippy to misspell the word and NOT know what he is talking about.
I prefer Dictionary.com over Wiki Joseph for definitions.
oh, absolutely. i should have made a disclaimer about Wiki. for all of wiki's many faults, though, it can be a good springboard to links to original sources.
i also agree with you that the book is full of its own stereotypes, and is counter to what Master of the Keys is saying. from what i have seen of the book, it sets up a similar "system" for men who have sex with men that is just as confining as that of the stereotypical "gay" culture.
my only goal was to provide information for those unfamiliar with the terminology. it's not uncommon in the scientific world for terms to be coined years before they gain acceptance into dictionaries or encyclopedias.
this has been a great discussion.
I'm with you BJ..sexual is simply enuf
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